The Art of Disappearing

When they say, “Don’t I know you?” say no.
When they invited you to the party, remember what
parties are like before answering.
Someone telling you in a loud voice they once wrote a
poem. Greasy sausage balls on a paper plate.
Then reply.
If they say we should get together, say why?
It’s not that you don’t love them anymore.  You’re trying
to remember something too important to forget.
Trees.  The monastery bell at twilight.
Tell them you have a new project.  It will never be finished.
When someone recognizes you in the grocery store, nod
briefly and become a cabbage.
When someone you haven’t seen in ten years appears at
the door, don’t start singing him all your new songs.  You
will never catch up. Walk around feeling like a leaf.
Know you could tumble any second.
Then decide what to do with your time.
 
~ Naomi Shihab Nye

 
In these few remaining weeks before the winter solstice, I invite you to reflect on Naomi Shihab Nye’s words as you think about what sort of holiday you want to create this year. Rather than slogging through another holiday of worn-out traditions and the gut-wrenching trap of expectations, consider implement some changes that will make the season more meaningful to you. You might eliminate gift giving this year and make a donation to a cause you support; or shop at thrift stores and consignment shops to save money and keep used goods from the landfill. Maybe you’ve decided to eat vegan or vegetarian and you offer loved ones the experience of healthy eating during the season of sugar overload. Whatever small changes you make will support you in the brave work toward authentic living.

~ Janice